Why Loved Ones Die After Standing In Faith

Grief-300-webby Joshua and Heather Boyd, Faith Courage Ministries, LLC

When we face a circumstance like this, where you stand on the Word, say the healing Scriptures over someone, but they die, we easily start to question: What happened?

Hebrews 13:8 says that Jesus Christ (The WORD) is the same yesterday, today and for ever. Isaiah 55:11 says “So shall my word be that goes forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.”

So God is the same, His Word never changes. How can these things happen then if I was standing on the Word? That answer comes from another Scripture. In Matthew 9:29, Jesus touched the eyes of the blind men and said: “According to your faith be it unto you.” Now before you get offended and say “but I did have faith” let me explain the word I am emphasizing: ‘your’. When we stand in faith for a loved one we have limited authority over their life in the spirit realm. The key person whose faith really counts is the one who is sick. And believe me, I am talking as the “loved one” of my wife whose faith I had to boost by constant encouragement and prayer that her spiritual eyes be opened. Because I knew that I could pray until I turned blue but it was her faith that counted for her healing.

The only exceptions to that in the Bible are for parents of young children. You can see multiple times in Jesus’ ministry that a parent brought their child to Jesus or came to Jesus and asked for healing for the child, and the child was healed. But for all adults, the adult had to have the faith.

Now look at the man sick of the palsy in Mark 2. He was an adult because Jesus spoke directly to him. But his friends carried him and lowered him through the roof to Jesus. That is our part: take our loved ones to the Word!

One more thing. When a person is fighting a life-threatening disease, they are already weak and down. Unless they already had a really strong spirit before the sickness, getting someone to fight in that state is difficult. Not impossible, but difficult. The body is telling them that it is over and that it is easier to quit. And in fact, it is easier.

I have never done boxing with anyone (fighting). If I suddenly found myself in a boxing ring with a champion fighter, it is really not the best time to learn to fight. It is the same with faith. The Bible tells us to LIVE by faith. We should be exercising our faith for small, medium and large things all the time. “Lord, I’m asking for the $50 I need for this bill.” or “Lord, thank you for my healing for this headache.”

I have seen God move in my life with healing many times but my wife grew up in a church that told you that this sickness might be from God to teach you something. That doctrine will kill you, literally. So I knew I had to get the Word in her from the beginning of her diagnosis. What you see on www.HealedofCancer.com (the original article) is her revelation of how much God wants to heal her — a revelation that is still increasing daily.

God, through the broken body of Jesus on the cross, has already done the work for our healing. He carried our sicknesses on His body so we don’t have to carry them. But just like salvation, which Jesus completed the work for with His blood poured out on the cross, we have to receive it. I can’t receive salvation for anyone else but me. But I can lead someone else to the altar.

We love you, and so does God. You didn’t fail. God didn’t fail. And you will see your loved one again, in heaven for eternity.  Be blessed,  Joshua and Heather Boyd

Used by Permission – Copyright © 2007-2013 ▪ Encouragement on Faith and Healing ▪ www.HealedofCancer.com ▪ aka Faith Courage Ministries, LLC


  1. To say that someone died because they didn’t have “enough faith” is just as legalistic as believing that God sends illness to teach you something. It takes the faith of a mustard seed. God says so. He makes up for our faith and He stands in the gap for us. Your post is toxic and harmful to Christians who are trying to “have enough faith” through their own will and works – which no one will ever be able to do. I think you should re examine your heart surrounding this issue because I think it is to many peoples detriment reading this looking for real hope and only finding more legalism and inconsistent formulas.

  2. I lost a very dear friend last week. She was a life long Christian, stood in faith like I have never seen, declared the word over herself and believed to the end she would be healed. We as a church constantly went to see her and pray over her, anointed her with oil, fully believing the next time we heard from her there would be good news.

    When you pray in faith and when the person who is sick prays in faith, lives faith and stands on faith why would she still die? I am so heart broken.

  3. I have seen people healed who said they 100% do NOT believe God would heal them.
    I have seen people healed when I did not believe God would heal them.
    There is no one formula to follow.
    This is more about Jesus and less about us.

    1. Thank you Joshua, this article is right on. I grew up in a church like your wife’s, as did my parents and in-laws. Now my dad & father-in-law are in heaven because they just waited on God to heal them.

      I am forever greatful that God delivered me from that cold, harsh, legalistic past. Now we’re in a good church where miracles happen and our sons are raising their families in powerful Holy Spirit filled churches where miracles are happening regularly.

      Thank you,
      Dennis Botz

      1. hi Dennis,pls help me with the name of that church,I seriously need help

        1. I recently had a young friend (40) die of COVID. He was a devoted Christian with a very strong faith. He is not the only one. I had a friend a few years past who died suddenly of a heart attack at 63 who was one of the most faithful man I ever knew as well as extremely healthy and active and another who died of pneumonia who was also very faithful so excuse me for saying so but your article makes no sense whatsoever.

    2. Well said.
      Unfortunately I lost someone dear to me, person believed they would get healed, despite me calling every day to pray for the person, even seeing a good result.
      Unfortunately person still died.

      Healing is there for people whose time are not up! Same for raising the dead, when someone’s time is not yet, then you can raise the dead.

      But when your time in earth is up, northing we can do.

      1. Per 2 Kings 20:1-7, Hezekiah’s time was “up.” So GOD sent Prophet Isaiah to him to tell him that your time is “up”—that is, GOD says that you, Hezekiah, are going to die. BUT Hezekiah prayed to God about this, and GOD adds 15 years to his life, thus healing him. Therefore per this Biblical example with Romans 15:4, I conclude that GOD can and, undoubtedly, God does heal people who are dying, as He does Hezekiah. Consequently, we must cling to this Biblical example and know that God can (and does) do what we cannot do! Praise God!

  4. This is soooo timely! I just lost my grandmother two days ago, and though I had the faith to believe in her healing, maybe according to her faith she didn’t have enough. I don’t know, but I do know that she is with Jesus, and I am at peace with that. Thank you for the encouraging read.

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      Dee – I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you. He is currently blessing your grandmother in more ways than you can know. Read/download this wonderful free book – Intra Muros by Rebecca Ruter Springer.

      It is a wonderful book, written sometime after the Civil War. This book has stood the test of time and has a wide mainstream following. Many churches give this book to grieving family members, and Billy Graham wrote an introduction to one of the editions.

  5. We have authority over all sickness and disease. Even for someone else. Why? Because Jesus lives in fullness in us. Look up Curry Blake on YouTube. He will teach you everything you need to know. I have ministered healing to hundreds of people. Healing goes into them from your hands and words. Whether they keep it is up to them and if they start to renew their minds. Go to awmi.net and watch all the healing testimonies. They will set you free.

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