If God’s Will Always Happens, Why Must We Pray?

holy-spirit-dove-320-webIs God’s will unconditional or is it conditional? Does His will just happen, or at times must it depend upon actions by others? This is the big question concerning prayer. What does the Bible say? The Lords prayer says this, ‘your will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.’  Prayer is the release of faith, and faith is the release of God’s known and heard will. Apparently, the will of God doesn’t happen on its own all the time. From what the scripture says, at least some of God’s will is conditional on man’s ability to have faith, and his willingness to pray.

Daniel having to pray for the release of the Hebrews from Babylon, even after the allotted time of their captivity had passed. (Daniel 9:2-3)

God encouraging the watchmen to not stop beseeching Him until “Jerusalem becomes a praise and blessing to the world. (Isaiah 62:6-7)

God looking to and fro for a faithful person to stand in the gap, so God would not destroy the land. (Ezekiel. 22:30)

Jesus commenting on how he couldn’t do certain miracles in a region because of people’s unbelief. Which suggests that the reason we don’t see miracles today is that the church lacks the faith required to bring the miracles into effect. (Matthew 13:58)

God’s admonition in 2 Chronicles. 7:14 that “if my people…humble themselves and pray…” God would heal their land. The land’s healing was conditional upon God’s people humbling themselves and praying.

Even though God conditionally binds some of His actions upon the faith and prayers of His people, He is still sovereign. He requirements, and the decision to base His actions on those requirements, are His decision and His decision alone.

We know that God does not hear sinners; but if anyone is God-fearing and does His will, He hears him. John 9:31

…and He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. Romans 8:27

Epaphras, who is one of your number, a bondslave of Jesus Christ, sends you his greetings, always laboring earnestly for you in his prayers, that you may stand perfect and fully assured in all the will of God. Colossians 4:12

This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. (15) And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests which we have asked from Him. I John 5:14, 15

If the will of God always happens, then why are we exhorted to pray for it?

“Give me one hundred preachers who fear nothing but sin and desire nothing but God, and I care not a straw whether they be clergymen or laymen; such alone will shake the gates of hell and set up the kingdom of heaven on earth. God does nothing but in answer to prayer.” John Wesley

Comments

  1. In Christ,
    I read some of the comments above and I connected with Will who wrote about his faith being undermined as even small prayers are not being answered.
    God is the creator of the Cosmos. God is sovereign. God is perfect in all of His ways.
    If God is sovereign and has ultimate power….He chooses to do according to His plan. I understand that we are called to pray. I understand we are told to pray. I don’t understand why….. unless the whole purpose of prayer is not to bring something into existance or to influence a sovereign God but to show ourselves worthy or to grow in our faith.

    However, I don’t grow in faith when prayers are not heard….I slowly become discouraged.

    1. I agree with Eric. I become discouraged when we pray and not even small requests are not answered ever much less other prayers. I am still so upset over this election. So. Many prayed snd fasted, but God’s Will wasn’t what we prayed for…I guess. That’s when I wonder and ask, “why pray?” Help me oh God accept these things.

      1. I sadly agree Nancy sooooo many Christians begged God to not let the evil side win . I saw all the Priests and ministers laying hands on Trump as they all prayed to save the USA from the left . If this is not reversed it just shows again God does what he wants OR simply does not care what happens on earth maybe and is only concerned with our souls and the after life SEVENTY THREE MILLION PEOPLE PRAYING JUST IN THE USA , NOT JUST 2 GATHRED IN IS NAME. We always give the out , not in his plan etc , he is the boss ,which is fine but also proof , I dont think your prayers will be answered no matter how many pray or how good the cause , if this is not reversed . I’m still hoping God lends a hand but if not , I just cant see the use in believing prayers will be answered unless its exactly what God wants to happen anyway and then it was not your prayer but Gods will that prevailed . I will still pray , I just dont think it can change a thing unless God already decided it would happen. We are super depressed here as well as we watch faith be destroyed babies will be murdered in higher numbers and evil will win if Beijing Burglar Biden the Chinese communist puppet master takes the lead

        1. The hard truth is that you will not always be happy by following Jesus. You will suffer, you will go through fiery trials, you will be persecuted. The simple answer and the hardest answer is READ YOUR BIBLE. For my limited answers are referring to scripture taken straight out.

          First thing I’d like to bring to attention that I’m mainly hearing, pray is not a wish list to get what you want every time you ask or reach out in prayer. ROMANS 12:12 – “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”

          There will be joy and there will be pain, and we are called to be patient through all of it. But it’s not just our circumstance we need to be patient in, in our prays we are to be patient as well. Pray isn’t some instant magic trick to make something happen just because you want it to happen.

          You may need to reassess how/what you are praying. In MATTHEW 6:5-13 “When you pray don’t rattle off long prayers like the pagans who think they will be heard because they use so many words. Don’t be like them. After all, God, who is your Father, knows your needs before you ask him. Pray then like this – ‘Our Heavenly Father, may your name be honored; May your kingdom come, and your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day the bread we need, Forgive us what we owe to you, as we have also forgiven those who owe anything to us. Keep us clear of temptation, and save us from evil’.”

          While Jesus is calling us to pray like this, not every prayer has to be like this, but it teaches where your perspective should be… On heavenly things rather worldly. When was the last time you prayed for God’s name to be honored? Asked for his Will, not your will be done? Asked for enough to get by for your day rather then more in it? Thanked what he has given you as well as what he hasn’t given you?

          Don’t get me wrong, there are dark things happening in our culture and world today. But that doesn’t mean God doesn’t have plans for those who have done these terrible things.

          Matthew 13:24-29

          24 Here is another story Jesus told: “The Kingdom of Heaven is like a farmer who planted good seed in his field. 25 But that night as the workers slept, his enemy came and planted weeds among the wheat, then slipped away. 26 When the crop began to grow and produce grain, the weeds also grew.

          27 “The farmer’s workers went to him and said, ‘Sir, the field where you planted that good seed is full of weeds! Where did they come from?’

          28 “‘An enemy has done this!’ the farmer exclaimed.

          “‘Should we pull out the weeds?’ they asked.

          29 “‘No,’ he replied, ‘you’ll uproot the wheat if you do. 30 Let both grow together until the harvest. Then I will tell the harvesters to sort out the weeds, tie them into bundles, and burn them, and to put the wheat in the barn.’”

          The enemy will be permitted to grow with the harvest… but when judgement day comes they will be separated and will atone for their sins. But what’s to separate you from them? Matthew 1:17-20 – “A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. A good tree can’t produce bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t produce good fruit. SO EVERY TREE THAT DOES NOT PRODUCE GOOD FRUIT IS CHOPPED DOWN & THROWN INTO THE FIRE. Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions.”

          In all, READ YOUR BIBLE (or listen to an audio book). This is the only way I know to grow closer to God and understanding his will.

        2. Thank you Chris for speaking the truth, that is the word of God: the Bible. It has all the instructions and answers, although difficult to hear, it is the truth.

          In fact it will go against our very nature to obey and follow, turn my cheek? Don’t get angry? Be joyful in this current time? Yes, yes, and yes. That is God’s way, and His way is perfect. Have the utmost reverence for the Most High and the hard truth will become easy.

  2. I appreciate providing a comment section. Not many Christian sites have one for articles like these.
    My issue is this: if God has a will (i.e. a plan), why would our prayer have any sort of influence over such a plan? Aren’t you implying that your prayers can cause God to do something? That seems pretty arrogant (no offense intended). Basically, if I have a to-do list, and I will only ever do what is on that list, how does someone else asking me to do something change what I’m going to do?

  3. What I do not understand is why we cant even get tiny prayers answered. My faith is suffering because of this. A small pet is sick and I pray he can be saved and fully give thanks and believe he will be and he dies in my arms. There was no good from this but to shatter my faith. Time after time I pray for better outcomes of relatively minor events, not a cancer cure or a big job, fancy car etc. Each time they get shattered or worse even happens . As an example, my beloved dog died suddenly screaming in my arms and I asked God to save her , nota . I asked God to please send me another like her and her breeder told me there would be a litter a short time and I thanked God and waited. The litter came and there was only ONE puppy born exactly like I wanted, I gave thanks to Jesus and God, the next day I was told the puppy died . Then I found a breeder who had a puppy exactly like I wanted and since I am on a fixed income I paid payments to get him, again I praised God, I sold things I had and made everything ready and a few days before he was to come we found out he had a genetic serious flaw and we could not take him . In my face denial over and over no matter how I believe and how I thank him for what appears to be an answer to a small thing. I keep believing and praying and the same thing over and over BUT in certain areas things are fine and no prayers are needed but for thanks in those areas. Its as if God either just does what he wants, period. Does not hear or care about our lifes little problems or does not exist. If we are his children why create such suffering and doubt even among the faithful ? I named one set of circumstances but could write PARAGRAPHS of similar small but completely ignored prayers that had bad effects on me and my wife. I know I know you always hear God has a plan be happy for what you have etc etc but the point is I’m not at all sure prayer has any effect on the outcome, god won’t allow me to believe it so far and if he IS active in these things seems to want to test me to the breaking point , of which I am there and still no answers from him.

    1. Hi Will,
      I’m sorry to hear of what happened. This makes me sad, especially as someone who believes in the power of prayer. I’m sorry that you feel like God is ignoring you. From what we read in scripture, I can assure you God has heard you and cares, and I wish I knew why (same as you) God didn’t answer your prayers as you asked them.
      I can see from your post that you’ve prayed in faith, and you’ve thanked God as you should. Sounds like you’ve done everything right. Let me offer my prayer as well.
      God, thank you for Will and his faith. Thanks that he loves dogs and sounds like he provides a good home for these beautiful creatures. Thank you God for giving us dogs we can enjoy as pets and love. I pray that you’d help Will find a dog he can love and enjoy for a long time. Please help Will experience you, and see that you love him, hear him, and care about his prayers. In Jesus name, Amen.

    2. Hi Will, I wanted you to know that as true, born again followers of Christ, we have all had these same thoughts and questions that you have. I don’t know where you are in your walk with Christ, but we must first understand that we will never know the answers to many questions here. If we did, we wouldn’t need God, or we would be God. The main thing to remember is that just as Christ suffered, we TOO, will suffer. Suffering is the manifestation of original sin. Our suffering can sometimes be caused by our own sins and disobedience, but that is absolutely not always the case. I think it’s very easy to put our focus on ourselves, rather than Christ. This life was never about us. We are breathing because God put breath in us. We are here because of His great love for us. God never “needed” us. He is the Great “I Am.” He is the author and owner of all but He chose to create us. He He loved and wanted a relationship with us. How amazing is that?? He wanted a relationship with you so much that He was willing to die in your place….and mine, too. Why? To save us from the penalty of our sin, so that we could be reconciled and clean. His sacrifice made it possible for us to one day live in His presence. Pets are wonderful, and losing them is awful and heart-wrenching, and lingering, but when you give this all some thought and pray for the Lord to give you the answers, I believe He will. When I’m in the midst of hurt and what I see as the Lord not hearing me, I shut my eyes, and place myself at the foot of the cross. I refuse to let myself look away. I look up at Jesus, and His suffering. Horrific suffering. I see Him as He is, My Abba (Daddy) Father who loves me like no other. I see Him pierced and bleeding, nailed to that cross. I see a crown of excruciatingly painful thorns causing blood to drip into His eyes. I see what He did for ME. I ask myself how I could be so selfish, believing that I should never suffer. We think we know suffering and persecution, but do we really? It’s at the foot of the cross that I understand that if my Jesus suffered, why should I be immune? Jesus demands that we love Him supremely, with all our heart, mind, soul and strength. I believe when we understand the depth of His great love and sacrifice, our “suffering” here will pale. On a personal note…..I have been very sick for a good while after throwing clots into my lungs 3 years ago. I have recently gotten out of the hospital following emergency surgery. My life has been a struggle for a while now, but I choose to trust God 100% in His providence and will for my life. Do I sometimes have questions? Yes, but never do I question that He is here walking with me through my hurts and discouragement. He’s my Rock, and my Salvation. He loves me like no other even in my struggles and my questions. He knows my heart and every thought, and I know without a doubt that there is a lesson in each of my “sufferings.” I hope that you have a new puppy by now and I am praying for you to give some thought to our “sufferings,” in light of Christ’s suffering. It will change your life, God bless and keep you, Will.

      1. I think we should learn from Jesus’ prayer when He was about to be taken and crucified. He prayed to the father that if He was WILLing that the cup be taken away from Him in Luke 22:42. It’s not everything that we want that are good for us no matter how good or how much we desire it. Each time I pray, I am quick to say if its Gods will, let it be granted. With this, I dont get discouraged when it’s not done. One thing I am sure of and i do not doubt about is that God is good, He cares, He loves me, He wants something good for me and will always do what is good for me. I dont validate this facts by checking how often He answers my prayers. That doesn’t mean we should not have a will, or not pray to God to bring our will to past, but we should subject our wills to His will. I hope this helps

        1. The problem that confronts me at times is , when I see things like a missing child, literally thousands of people are holding prayer vigils at times, some times all over the world, begging for their safe return and in almost all these cases , if it’s over 24 hours the child is deadIve seen this over and over and over with devout people being crushed when it turns out no matter all the prayers the little child was tortured raped and murdered .If Gods will is not influenced bu thousands of people all coming together and praying for the same thing , what good is my own needy prayer ? Im not really convinced God cares that much for what happens to us on earth but is just watching to see what we do no matter what happens, for the afterlife test. YES I have had some prayers answered of course, and some times I think given signs he was hearing me . In your example, it appears he did not appear to help even his own son in his earthly suffering in favor of the value to the afterlife

      2. Brenda,

        You are truly an inspired teacher. Thank you for being a daughter of God who can remind fellow believers this life is about HIM, not me. I buried a son 12 yrs ago and I have an adult son living at home with Asperger…..and I have wondered why, from time to time. I pray for a glimpse of His working in my life so that I never doubt He is near. Suffering is tough but comparing my trials to Jesus’ carrying my sin on His shoulders, on purpose, in love, well, that clears things up a lot.

    3. I’ve been having this same discussion with several people. To say “if it be Your will” is a display of unbelief or a lack of faith, I believe would be to slander the very Lord of the Lord’s prayer! First we must remember these 2 things- Who He is, Creator, King, The Almighty, the one True God, the great I AM, and who we are- we are creatures, His works, His creation.
      Remember, it was Jesus, in His moment of most passion, that prayed the will of God, Luke 22:39 -40, He said, “Father, if it be Your will, take this cup away from me”, in other words, Jesus knew what had to be done, to save you and I, but was asking God, if there were ANY other way, to save us, to let Him pay for our sins another way, all things being equal. He was saying, If this is what You want, I’ll do it, not my will but Your will be done. Luke says after Jesus prayed an Angel came & strengthened Him, and also that His agony increased, let me explain, the angel strengthened him so He could go through all He was to go through, but when His agony increased, He had a new fear, the fear that He wouldn’t be able to drink this cup, in other words, He was now in agony that He NOT come short of complete & perfect obedience to the will of the Father. BUT He did do it – He DID drink the cup, to the very last drop. And He drank it for you, for me, for the whole world. And in that moment, He didn’t give words to show us how to pray – but gave us HIS life as an example of praying, that the will of God be done, in earth, as it is in heaven. We go through some tough times, but we go through them WITH Him, and we go through it to strengthen us, to build our character, and sometimes to humble us. And I think, believe that to pray His will, not ours, proves and demonstrates our true, trust and faith in Him, that He will restore us, build us, and get us through these things. God bless.

    4. There is so much I want to cry out to you and explain to you. But the hard truth is that you will not always be happy by following Jesus. You will suffer, you will go through fiery trials, you will be persecuted.

      The simple answer and the hardest answer is READ YOUR BIBLE. For my limited answers are referring to scripture taken straight out.

      James 1:6-7 – 6 But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. 7 Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.

      Are you asking for a heavenly desire? Or an earthly desire?

      Matthew 6:20-21 – 20 Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. 21 Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.

      Do you desire a relationship with God? Or do you desire a relationship with a pet? And the next thing going through your mind is that life is tough and it’s nice to have a companion/friend to always be there for you.

      Deuteronomy 31:8 – 8 Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you.”

      BUT WHY DOES LIFE HURT SOO MUCH?! IF YOU ARE WITH ME WHY DO I SUFFER?!!

      John 15: 18-20 – 18 “If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first. 19 The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you. 20 Do you remember what I told you? ‘A slave is not greater than the master.’ Since they persecuted me, naturally they will persecute you. And if they had listened to me, they would listen to you.

      If you have made it this far… do not lose hope, do not lose faith.

      2 Corinthians 4:16-18 – 16 That is why we never give up. Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed every day. 17 For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! 18 So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.

  4. It’s amazing how we all go through similar situations, asking the same questions and wanting to know God more. As I was also pondering about God’s sovereignty and His will I came across these scriptures Matthew 26:38,39,42 and 44, 27:46 but it’s best to read all of it. As we follow Christ and we should strive to be like Him, I was amazed as to how these scriptures are teaching us to respond to God’s will even if we do not agree to it nor understand it. Evidently we are not the only once to feel overwhelmed by our circumstances even Christ himself was once overwhelmed, Mat26:38 say Jesus said to His disciples “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death”. Mat26:39 He is praying to God asking Him if possible to let the cup pass Him by, he asked for that more than once as a perfect example that, like us He hoped for a different outcome than to what He was about to go through. But the most important lesson we should learn is that His obedience to God was not conditional as weather God answers Him to the way He has requested or not because He then says ” But not my will but Your will be done”. God knew that we would be going through rough times to a point of questioning things about Him hence He has given us His scriptures. From this we can learn that if Jesus our Lord and Saviour felt the same pain that we feeling right now how more about us, most importantly He is teaching us how to respond to this pain like He did. He didn’t receive what He was hoping for but He didn’t give up His faith in God…There are going to be many instances where we do not receive what we believing God for but we should learn to say not my will but Your will Father. Christ is God but even Himself prayed, even after praying He had to endure what He was willed to do on this earth and He humbly submitted Himself to God’s will. So my brothers and sisters let us look upon the one who brought us salvation through submission and obedience. Let us not take from Him only the salvation but also the suffering learning from Him how to handle the challenges that we face. His submission and obedience led to our salvation, the Bible says (Rom 8:28) all things work together for the good of those who love God. These “things” may seem bad at first like the death on the cross but through that cross and resurrection we found salvation and Jesus our Lord and saviour is now sitting at the right hand of the Father. So let us not loose faith but endure and trust God even if the outcome is not what we had hoped for, eventually He will make “all things” not some but “all things” to work together for our good if we continue loving and trusting Him. I pray that God will grant us peace in trials and tribulations and that we rest in Him and wait for His appointed time, in Jesus name…God bless.

  5. Thanks so much I needed to restore my faith still God’s work in progress a better understanding however having problems maintaining my faith when things continue to go wrong, but promise myself never to give up on prayer,but work on FAITH. Blessings

  6. God has a sovereign will that will prevail. But He does not have a planned will for various situations, which means God’s will does not always happen in the way we think. Much of our notions abut God’s will is incorrect because we think that He consciously plan or try and want something to happen His way, but it isn’t so. He allows free will for people to act or behave. This free will is different from His sovereign will.
    Read about it in this book “Understanding prayer, faith and God’s Will”(2016 edition).
    Also this website: www,prayerfaithGodsWill.com

  7. I feel your pain… I too am a victim of unfavorable circumstances of separation and possible divorce. .. I have prayed and stand for my marriage and it seemed as if the more I prayed the more my cruel husband was being blessed. I can only assure you that it may appear that your husband and his wife are being blessed because that’s what our natural world shows but if you could see the spiritual realm you would see the curse that is upon them… God cannot over ride our husband’s free will to appease us but trust me when I tell you that if you make the most high your dwelling … not abide in self pity but pick up yourself and move on then you will live to see the wicked punished… I am writing a book as we speak… I have asked God to comfort me as he works on my justice and vindication… I pray he does the same for you… I know it hurts so badly to believe in the promises of God and to not see them come to pass… but just know that God answers prayers in 4 ways… He either says yes no not yet or TRUST ME! Choose the one you think he has given and tell him to give you a new start based on that answer. .. God owes us nothing but still he gave his life for us… let’s not be ungrateful let us praise him for even the fact that we still are in our right minds after all we have been through. .. praise you Jesus. .. Please Forgive your exhusband and put him in care of God’s justice… may God direct you always
    With love nickie

  8. I like this article but where I’m at right now is this,…
    If all we have to do is have faith to believe what we’re praying for is going to come to pass, then where does God’s will come into play with that? Example: I can pray and have great faith (even though all I need is a little bit, the size of a mustard seed) that God is going to do this miraculous thing in my life. BUT, what if it’s not God’s will? I heard a message about John the Baptist that really messed me up. He was a great man of God. He was thrown in jail for doing the work of God. All the while, he’s hearing how God is performing all these miracles for others. Surely he believed that Jesus could/would perform a miracle to get him out of jail, he’s Jesus cousin for crying out loud! But that was not God’s will. Instead, he gets his head chopped off and served on a silver platter to his enemy! Wow! So help me to understand then, what does my faith have anything to do with Gods will…”Thine will be done…” I mean we hear/see it all the time where people are sick, people are poor, people are drug addicts, and so much more terrible things, where somewhere someone was praying and believing God for a change, but that change never comes. I’m at a point in my life where I’m not questioning God because I know he’s real. I just need to know God’s will for my life and whatever it is, I will accept it instead of this emotional roller coaster that the church sends you on where it’s…
    “Run, leap, shout, sow ex amount of $, give God crazy praise right now and watch your blessings/prayers to be manifested in your life!” But then once all that gets you happy and you believe it, months, weeks, for some, years later your still in the same situation. I just want God’s discernment to know HIS desires for my life so I can just go on or let go whatever I may need to let go of.

    1. I am in the same boat as you…believe me. I had a situation in my life…a job that I really prayed about. All my friends prayed for me as well. I truly believed, had faith that God would let me get this job. It was a job that would positively impact a lot of people (Social Work). But it never came to pass. So… I too have the same dilemma. Should we even be praying for a specific thing to happen or should we limit our prayers to God’s will and guidance?

      I get really disturbed when I hear certain churches guilting people into thinking that if their faith was stronger then X,Y, or Z would happen or not happen. I know without a doubt that Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior. I believe he died on the cross for me and rose again on the third day. Do I believe that whatever I ask for will happen because of my faith in Him? No, I don’t. I think that if we truly ask for His guidance, then what will happen will be His will regardless of our desires.

      I could be wrong, I hope I am. I invite another Christian to respond and give me their point of view if I am missing something about faith. I have been searching for the answer for a long time and hope that someone else can shed some light on this subject.

      Thanks!

      1. Why does no one from this sight respond?? I’ve never visited a site where people have legitimate questions, and NO one tries to give them clarity.

  9. Jesus taught that if you pray in my name God will grant your requests. But Jesus also said that you need to believe that the prayer will be answered. Some even teach that your prayers need to be in line with God’s will in your life. Yet, we do not have the biography as to what God’s will is in our life other than to be faithful and God fearing.

    Is it as simple as trying to remain faithful and to avoid sinful living? We are all sinners, even those that are saved. One can pray for healing from a particular disease or disorder and pray continually without ceasing, yet not see any positive results. And they become frustrated and stop praying for that healing in their life.

    Jesus gave the parable of the Judge who got tired of the lady constantly complaining and finally gave her justice. Yet, if it is God’s will for you to have a certain disease, then it seems that you complain all you want and your will so to say will not override God’s.

    A very tough question to answer.

  10. My husband left me for another woman And got her pregnant… I asked God what he would do to my marriage and through many signs and bible versus God told me he would restore my marriage. But then the divorce went through, their child was born, and they married. The daughter he and I share was molested by my ex husbands step son and my ex did not even believe it. He chose to side with his new wife and step son. He ended up in court over this among other things- I ve been trying to keep my daughter emotionally and physically safe and the end result was God allowed my daughter to continue being around the step son and the judge also ordered me to be in therapy because my ex was Able to make me look like I am the problem. I have prayed for three years that God would restore and to defend me. However God seems to continue to bless by ex new marriage and life and mine continues to be broken. I’m holding on by a string with my faith because although God says he hates divorce and adultery… He seems to be blessing and rewarding them for it. I feel pushed aside by my ex husband and God.

    1. Your story takes my breath away. I actually came to read this article to help restore my faith, and I found renewed faith in yours. It is remarkable what you have gone through and yet you are still holding on. There may not be many things I can say to you that you haven’t heard before. All I can say is to continue to pray and have faith. We want things to happen our our timeline and schedule, and sometimes aren’t pleased when they don’t. Think about how long the Hebrews wondered in the desert with Moses, or how about 400 years went from Malachi to Jesus being born. You may look at the lives of others and for the time being everything looks wonderful, but it may only be temporary and you don’t know what the future has in store. I pray that one day you can look back on this dark period in your life in the future and see how the unfortunate events led you to the blessing you now live.

      God bless you and stay strong.

    2. what I can tell you my sister is that, when you have given your life to Christ, you have given up your own will and you now have become a tool for the Lord, so a tool never choose when and how to be used by its master, so with your story you have touched many of us to continue believing in Christ Jesus, God have trusted you so much to use you but I can promise you this; God’s will is always good for us, you may not know that now but keep this in mind you and your daughter will have the last laugh. stay bless

  11. This is an interesting day for me, because I was googling ‘praying and receiving immediate peace in my heart meaning’ and your website showed up. It has further reiterated my faith and also what I believe. I have been praying for a decision to go in my favor in the court system for sometime now and have been thinking a lot about my life, praying, trying to become a more positive person, giving life to another human, and doing works in the community and helping others I have been praying all through this process and now have been receiving the peace I need. I know my prayer is answered. I would not even need to go and stand in front of that judge because I already know that the answer will be in my favor because I have faith and am living my life in the way I should have a long time ago. I speak to and of Jesus daily, which is difficult in these times of non believers, especially family and friends. I know Jesus has given me my answer. I have no more fear and doubts and have found my true faith. Thank you for your posts as it further strengthens my faith. Every day I will work on strengthening it more and more because work of the heart is never done.

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  13. mall group pastor and worship leader when my ex-wife, which was all of those things as well asked me for divorce. The reasons to the divorce were mainly financial and me not taking my place as the one home provider. When that happened, I came closer to God. My faith grew thinking God was in control and we would get over this. As the months passed and divorce became a reality I just stopped believing. How is it that God did not intervened?? I asked myself. The most sacred covenant of marriage?? Family being the most important institution created by God?? Ask and I shall provide!! Says the bible. What happened?? To this day I don’t understand. I don’t want to believe in God. Call me a rebel. Cause how is it possible he allowed this to happen!! To his son and daughter!! I lost all my faith. I don’t go to church and the thought of going to church pisses me off. I lost friends. I lost everything. Explain to me… Why?? If divorce is never gods will then why?? 2 years have passed and I’m still in pain. In my depression I had sex with my first attempt at dating and she got pregnant. Now I live with her and there’s not one day I don’t think of my divorce, my ex wife and church…

    1. We have to remember that we are to ask. As a child I ask my parents for things that I need. My father already know my needs before I ask him. My shoes will soon need replacing along with my cloths and so on. My dad sets aside money (budgets) for that time to come. I may ask him for a pair of shoes before (he feels) I need them. His answer will most likely be “no” or wait. I may not like that answer but it is what it is. Gods answer will always be “yes” “no” or “wait”. Gods timing is always perfect. God chastens who He loves and through our trials/ christenings we are tested. We are to be strong and be molded into Gods image daily. We accept Gods will when times are good and smooth, but when times get tough and don’t go OUR way we can: A) turn our backs and run, or B) face the trials and be victorious using God to rely on. In our trials we are instructed to wait. That doesn’t mean sit and do nothing. IT means to be patient and draw closer to Him in our relationship with Him. To listen more intently to His instructions. IT means God wants us to tighten up our relation ship based on Him and not the OUTCOME. It looks like the outcome determined your relationship with God. God is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. He has provided your needs all your life. We sometimes treat God as a friend only if He reacts to our prayers the way we want him to. through the trials there comes a lot of hurt and anxiety. In Psalms it tell us to commit those to the lord, Trust in Him and then delight in what ever the outcomes is and then you will have rest. Fear and lack of faith (doubt) will drive a wedge between you and God. The Psalmist tells us that if we do fear, than we need to go back and see it we really committed our problem to the Lord. If we truly did, then we can trust that God is in total control of our destiny. We cant trust, in God if we really didn’t commit our selves. The next step is delight in what ever Gods answer is. If we cant delight when we need to go back to trust and see if we are really trusting. The last step is rest in the Lord. If we we cant rest in the Lord, than we need to go back and see if we are truly delighting. This is a cycle that helps us examine our faith. Remember that each one of us has a free will to choose what we want, and God will not make us choose Him, just like your wife’s free will to either stay with you or not. God will not break her free will. In the end, you will choose to follow or not follow. As for me and my house I will serve the Lord.

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      Alan – I am sorry I did not answer this before now. At the end of last year, I found out that I had aggressive cancer and I started treatment. It was a crazy time and I missed many comments. I am doing well now. My blood tests and CT scan show no more cancer. God is good. I praise God and I thank doctors.

      God does care and He does work, but He works by faith and by seeking Him and listening to Him. Otherwise, the devil can have a field day with our lives. You were, and you still are, a Pastor. You had a large target on your back that says, “Attack me; I am a messenger of God.” Most of the Church teaches that the things of God just happen because He is God and He always gets what He wants. Read the Bible stories; it never happens that way. The people who were victorious – heard from God, obeyed in faith, and fought or resisted the devil and destruction until they received the victory. Faith, the Bible says, is the victory. Not sitting and expecting Him to do everything. Or – sorry for this – not doing anything yourself and then blaming God for all the destruction.

      Repent, get back on the horse and get back to God. Seek Him and listen for Him to lead you out of your dark place. The ole’ cowboy saying is true – “When you find yourself at the bottom of a deep dark hole; step one is to stop digging.” He desires to restore you and take the pain and hurt out of your heart. He did not cause it. And, He is not amiss in not stopping it. I cannot speak to the existence of evil but I can say that the Bible is clear that – we must resist evil in every way possible – “Jesus went about doing good and healing all that were oppressed of the Devil, for God was with Him.” Part of faith is going through something we do not understand, and still responding with the knowledge that God is good and faithful and He has the answer. He does.

      You want to know why it happened? All I can say is this, “evil attacked you and your family.” The Devil comes to simply steal, kill, and destroy. It could have been random or you could have caused something. God knows, we all have open doors at times. When it happens, we cannot be passive; we must take the Spirit of God, the Word of God, and our faith in God, and fight with everything within us. God loves you. I love you. Please go back to God and let Him put you back together again. I will pray for you. Rex

    3. I get ur anger. And I have been bitter since my husband left me for another woman 10 years ago. Not sure I believe in prayer anymore. I’m a fool

  14. I belive “God’s will is always conditional”. Because He knows our will and all our intensions, as before the foundation of the world.
    Also the Lord’s Prayer is, Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kindom come.Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven……..

    Thy will be done in earth. is refering to God’s will.
    not our will.

    Thanks for your website.

    Ronnie

    1. Whenever two agree on earth is a very powerfull distinction.,which is not the same as another person simply agreeing to pray for your prayer need.

      With the world in lockdown, as a member of staff, we each called hundreds of members , to connect them to online services, offer helps, or if they are led to help, and prayer agreement.

      Not one person was overly troubled by the virus, which was encouraging to hear faith working, yet many refused prayer, untill I presented the request of Math 18; 18-19 paraphrase keys to lock up the bad, unlock the good, if we agree about anything ( context Gods will must be good)
      Strait after this generous promise the Holy Spirit talks on forgiveness, with a curse of torture in verse 34-35 from the Father, if we do not.
      Who knows what advantage the enemy takes of our unforgiveness.

      Many more People responded to the promise.
      My question is, when we are praying for deep distresses, is it more just a private thing, with some praying for us apart from us, not hearing what’s going on in our hearts, not hearing the possibility of bitterness from past hurts being present, and parents etc not forgiven?
      This is not a blame game but a conversation.
      Suffering does indeed perfect us, firstly Christ’s, secondly ours and more so bitterness.
      We see our pet suffer or child suffer, yet if we could but see how much we suffer, by not searching our own heart in God.
      Purposing in our heart that God loves us no matter what happens and that we will praise him no matter what happens is a key for a Christian.
      The people who have shared distress in this forum, are courageous, in sharing there vulnerabilities, and are obviously faith people reaching out.
      it’s my prayer they will soon boast in there weaknesses, because Gods Grace is more than sufficient for each of them, and that they will
      each open up there life, with a mature brother or sister, getting agreement for a period of one month, and search there hearts and Gods, to receive grace upon grace, that there suffering will indeed perfect them, and not harm them at all
      They will know and understand that when they are weak they are in fact strong, because they have given up on self, for Jesus.

      Re divorce, who knows the greater pain caused by a spouse brought back to the marriage, who’s will and heart have not been transformed, but are worse than before??

      God speaks through prayer, the bible circumstances, the Church, dreams , authority etc, what’s God saying to us through pain ?
      In line with something redemptive.
      My people perish for lack of understanding, lack of fasting, lack of true agreement,,etc etc
      Does All things work for the good, really mean all things ? and how ?

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